Post-Vasectomy Sex – A Reader’s Story

My experience of vasectomy resembles that of others. Certainly my wife and I carefully considered the decision, viewing it as a permanent choice–in our case, not to have children at all. And I did a lot of web-searching and reading on my own before deciding that what I was hearing from my doctor – in a Health Maintainanance Organisation (HMO in the US) was consistent with everything else I was hearing (including from friends and relatives).

After that, the hardest part was the hair growing back! (By the way, I recommend doing the shaving yourself the night before, rather than leaving it to them the day of the “procedure”: my wife and I had a lot more fun with it than I would have had with a nurse at the clinic–still less with an orderly!).

The vasectomy itself took only about forty minutes. They gave me a valium to take an hour before, which was a good idea. I lay on a metal table. legs together, doctor and nurse peering down at my cowering parts. There was some pain when the doctor injected the local on each side. Then nothing but “numbnuts”–except for the distinct sensation of serious tugging. The highpoint came when halfway through the doctor dropped one of his tools. I didn’t sit up to see what it looked like exactly. The nurse had to scurry out to get another.

There was spectacular swelling–balls like large plums, if not grapefruits–and color change. And I was sore for about a week–kicked in the balls sore. At the doctor’s insistence, wore a jock strap from the moment I got off the table; it also helped at work for the rest of the time. I do recommend taking seriously what people say about taking it easy. I got done on a Friday morning, and took the rest of the day off, ice in lap. Also did little over the weekend. I have heard there can be serious complications–and longer recovery–if you jump around too much immediately after.

A word about sex. My doctor told me I could have sex as soon as I felt like it, as long as we avoided any real rough play involving the scrotum, and I took him at his word. We did stuff that very night, despite the swelling. A long, gentle handjob–we were afraid for the stitches–that produced one of my best orgasms ever: an especially powerful, copious ejaculation that seemed to come from “someplace else.” It might be the effect was caused by the long build-up during the handjob. But I suspect the swelling itself contributed, creating extra pressure in the tubes that were still connected. (Simple hydraulics!) I’d be interested to hear from anyone else who had similar experience.

Also take seriously what they say about not being cleared for unprotected sex until given the green light by the doctor–mine insisted on two “clean” samples, and wouldn’t look at the first till a month after the vasectomy. That much time, and at least 15 ejacs.: My wife and I joked about the burden of “my treatments.” Anyway, you aren’t sterile till the doctor says so. A friend’s brother got over eager, and his wife is now expecting their fourth kid!

Having to provide “samples” was a little strange. Doctors seem to like the samples “fresh” (no more than an hour old), but with planning I was able to “give at home,” bringing my goo into the clinic in a special plastic jar they provided–it had a nice tight seal! Still, shooting on command (and in my case right before leaving for work), created a certain level of performance anxiety. My first time I did just great. The second went less well. Just at the wrong moment, the plastic cup leapt from my hand, bouncing across the bedroom floor as I desperately tried to freeze the action. Happily, my wife was there to save the day, retrieving the cup in the nick of time. Team-work wins again. (One complaint: I didn’t think to ask if I could use lubricant, and so did it dry, not my usual practice. Might have been easier–and more fun!–other ways. And I suspect there are some!)

Anyway, this was all six months ago. Erections, ejaculations, feeling, desire, have all remained the same. If anything, I am hornier than before. And my wife really likes being off the pill.

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