Sex after vasectomy: How long should you wait?

Are you getting a vasectomy?
Plan ahead and get some cold packs on Amazon and a 3 pack of jock straps for a comfortable post-surgery recovery!

One of the most common questions men have before (and after) their vasectomy is “When can I start having sex again?”

You’re going to see a lot of answers to this questions floating around the Internet, and they can vary greatly. Some doctors recommend a week, some two weeks, and some just a couple days.

All this conflicting advice can be confusing and lead to a lot of unnecessary worry. While there isn’t a definitive answer, the general consensus seems to be this:

Most doctors recommend waiting a week before having sex. Others say you can start having sex as soon as you feel up to it, which will usually be a few days.

This is admittedly a very broad answer and won’t apply to every situation. Always listen to your doctor and use common sense before resuming intercourse after a vasectomy.

Why do you have to wait?

One reason doctors give their patients a waiting period is to ensure the incision has time to heal properly. Since the testicles are prone to move around a lot during sex, there’s a risk that the wound could reopen if it’s not fully healed. Vasectomy incisions are relatively small and heal quickly, but doctors generally like to err on the side of caution when discussing aftercare with patients.

Another reason you need to wait is that an ejaculation involves a number of intense muscle contractions in the genital area, which means having an orgasm could be uncomfortable if the patient is still experiencing swelling, bruising, or tenderness.

Post-vasectomy discomfort during an orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean something’s wrong–it just means you’re still sore. Waiting a week or more gives the testicular region time heal.

You probably won’t be in the mood (at first)

Any guy who’s had a vasectomy will tell you that you’re probably not going to feel like having sex for the first couple days after your operation. Between the soreness and the painkiller-induced haze, sex isn’t usually at the top of the list. Some doctors instruct their patients to wait a certain amount of time before bathing, so you may feel gross in addition to being swollen and groggy.

By day three and four many men will be feeling pretty good and may want to resume normal sexual activity. If everything feels all right (and your doctor says it’s OK) then it’s probably safe to go for it, but use caution. Some doctors who allow intercourse after a few days recommend “gentle” sexual activity, so don’t get too crazy.

Above all, use common sense. If you’re still tender, not feeling right, or have any reservations about jumping back into the sack, it’s best to play it safe and wait a little longer.

Remember: You won’t be sterile right away

Something very important to remember is that you won’t be sterile right away, so even when you’re ready to start having sex again you need to keep using contraception until you have confirmed you are 100% sterile. The only way to be sure of this is by having a semen analysis or by using an in home kit if you’d rather stay in the privacy of your own home. There’s an excellent in home test kit available by Spermcheck. You can check the current price here.

This point cannot be overstated: keep using birth control immediately after your operation. You don’t have to search far to find horror stories of couples who became pregnant shortly after a vasectomy operation (although these couple usually call these pregnancies “miracles” instead of “horror stories”).

Further Reading

The question of when to resume sex after a vasectomy is most pressing issues on a man’s mind after his procedure. We’ve compiled this list of links to websites of various medical websites organized by recommended wait times.

These links should only be used for guidelines. Your unique situation will vary so always follow your doctor’s advice.

As soon as comfortable

A few days

One week

Two to three weeks

Comments

  1. My husband had a vasectomy on Monday and we had a sexual experience on the Tuesday. Madness yes but Col said it didn’t hurt, more so that the stitches were pulling a little

  2. I was able to resume sexual intercourse right after my vasectomy and penis reduction surgery. I had to be careful and not move around alot, but it was possible.

  3. I had mine on Wednesday afternoon and wanted to have sex 10 minutes after. The doctor said wait a week, but I can’t wait that long….Its been 4 days

  4. I had my surgery on a Thursday morning. Like many, I was already thinking about having intercourse the very next day. It’s been nearly four days now and the only thing keeping me and my wife from having intercourse is a lack of a clear answer and a little concern. I’m a little sore but feel that I am ready. After researching this topic online. I have seen some suggest 4 weeks!!! Are you kidding me? lol.. But on the other hand I have seen 2 days!

  5. I haven’t had one, and my wife is more than willing to wait 3 months in between sex.

  6. That’s odd, Sad. She can’t seem to go more than a couple days without having sex with me!

  7. i made LOVE less than a week after my job in my balls, what are the chances that she can become pregnant, l know its the same old story, but we only done it once, ejaculated in her that is, and if she is pregnant is there any substance that would be missing to make a healthy baby if she is pregnant ???? hope someone can give a clearer answer than, you should have waited ……………..why , an explanation would also be good, if the little suckers can’t get through now as theres no tube why pregnant, em……..has she played away ………….

  8. Gino, you better call 911 asap! Your girl is most likely pregnant, and the child will not have any arms or legs. Only the armless and legless sperm make it through after a vasectomy.

  9. Gino,
    Ok. First, if your wife is pregnant then there is no reason your baby wouldn’t be healthy. Sperm leave the testicles and mix with fluids in the prostate and another couple of glands (I can’t think of the names and I’m too lazy to go look) when you ejaculate. So, all of that was still there when you had sex. If you’re going to be a father you are going to have a healthy baby.
    Second, the reason she could still get pregnant is the possibility that you still have sperm further downstream from the last time you ejaculated before you had the vasectomy. After the last time you ejaculated before you had your vasectomy there was some sperm still left over in your vas deferens, prostate and urethra. The supply of sperm has been cut off because of the vasectomy but any that were left over past the vasectomy can still go through with the next ejaculation. Long story short, if your wife gets pregnant it is from sperm that left your testicles before your vasectomy.
    Hope that answers your question.

  10. I just had my vasectomy done on Tuesday and on Friday after work my wife and I figured we could give it a try. The doctor told us to wait 7 days but like a lot of other people who have looked online for a timeframe to resume intercourse afterwards there were ranges from 2 days to 4 weeks. I had very little discomfort immediately after the procedure and over the next two days I wouldn’t even have known I had it done if I didn’t know that I had. No pain, discomfort, bleeding, nothing. I felt back to normal for the most part. I will say though that during and after this first time after the procedure it felt like I had been kicked in the balls. Now that it has been about an hour afterward the pain/discomfort has subsided but I was a little worried that we probably shouldn’t have done it so soon afterwards. The reason the doctor tells you to wait for a few days afterward before having unprotected sex is for a variety of reasons. 1, the incision sites can become infected, 2. the motions of intercourse can be uncomfortable with your testicles bouncing around, 3. you still are no where even CLOSE to being sterile (3 to 6 months afterward you can still have live sperm leaving in your ejaculate). The sperm that are ejaculated when you have sex are actually close to being 75 days old at that point. It takes approximately that long from the time they are created in the testicles until they make it to the storage point located in the prostate gland. THIS is the reason the doctors make you wait for 3 months before testing your semen to see if there are any sperm (alive OR dead) left in your ejaculate. A vasectomy can be thought of like building a dam in a 10 mile long river. At mile #1 the dam is built and the water backs up behind the dam but all of the water downstream from the dam continues to flow until it runs out and the riverbed becomes dry. Your prostate is at the end of mile #10, so all of the water needs to run out of the riverbed and the riverbed needs to be dry before you can say there’s no more water (in effect, no more sperm). Sperm do NOT leave the testicles immediately, travel up the vas deferens to the prostate and get ejaculated all at one moment (the moment you have an ejaculation). It is an ongoing process and the only sperm that leave your body are the ones that have been stored in your prostate. There are still plenty of them working their way up your vas deferens to the prostate awaiting the NEXT ejaculation. Sperm can swim but they aren’t so fast as they can leave your testicles the minute you kiss your partner and be inside of them when you ejaculate whether it be 20 minutes or 2 hours later. Hope this helps some of you looking for answers to how our sperm are created, where they reside until we send them out on patrol, and why it takes so long after a vasectomy before we can be given the green flag that we are truly “shooting blanks.” In short, there is a SIGNIFICANT possiblility that you can still have children for up to 6 months after you have had a vasectomy and they WILL be yours. Your doctor is the only one that can give you the “all clear” signal that you are not continuing to ejaculate sperm after a vasectomy. I spoke at significant length with my doctor about all of this before mine and did plenty of “human reproduction” research on the internet before I had mine. I do not want any more children and a surprise is the last thing we need now. Better to know how things operate in your testicles and that surrounding area so that you know the possibilities of what can happen if you don’t pay attention to what your doctor tells you (or forgets to tell you). Good luck everyone.

  11. I had my vesectomy three days ago, and I’m horney. The post-op nurse said no intercourse for 1-2 weeks. She said that some guys resume after day or two thinking they’re manly-men studs, and end up injuring themselves. It’s not cool to have to go back and say that your balls have a boo-boo becuase they couldn’t handle sex: so don’t do it. My wife was trying to negotiate to get the nurse to say three weeks LOL

  12. My vasectomy was on Friday at 2pm, I was in the office for all of an hour. I had the no-scalpel vas and it was EASY. I wasn’t fond of the anesthetic part but after that it was no more than feeling tugging on my sac. The nurse cauterized the tubes after the doc trimmed. I have one tiny puncture in my sac about 2″ below my penis. I did more damage dropping an exacto blade once.

    The doc was cool, I wished the nurse had been a hottie, that would have kept my mind off that damn needle. Anyway, I brought my iPod to iTune out but we were all joking around, so I never used it. It was over quickly and about an hour afterwards I WISH I HAD TAKEN TYLENOL BEFOREHAND.

    My girl drove me back home through Atlanta afternoon traffic and by the time I got home I felt like a 300lb gorilla had kicked me in the groin for a 65 yard field goal. I took 800mg of Advil and slept for 2 hours. I woke up around 6 ate a little bit, watched a movie. Slept all night thanks to more Advil and 3 tabs of Benedryl.

    Post Opt day 1
    I feel fine. Not overly exerting myself and kinda horny. A wee bit sore and swollen but not bad at all. I thought about masturbating but afraid my ejaculation may undo the sealed tubes. But still aroused. Also afraid that fucking gorilla may come back for another punt.
    I’m going to the Braves game on Sunday regardless.

  13. I just got my whistle wet. I had my procedure on a Friday afternoon. I had some sex on Tuesday night. I feel fine, but I didn’t get Olympic on it! I was told to wait about a week. 4 days is closer to a week than 3 days, right? Haha!

  14. I have mine scheduled for next Friday. My wife is a nurse and she told me I’ll have to wait for two weeks before having sex. I can’t….I think I’ll explode. But I’ll take a gorilla punt anyday before having another kid:)

  15. Vasectomy, one incision on bottom of scrotum, Saturday ar noon. Had sex Sunday evening with condom, no problems.

  16. My fiance had his vasectomy on Wednesday at 10: 30 in the morning and that evening at about 11:30 pm we had sex!! He is so crazy why are men so horny they cant wait 7 days! He said it felt great during but was sore for a while after. Then we had sex again the next morning. I am not doing it again, he needs to heal and I told him the last thing you want to do is get your NUTS infected. But everything is good so far and I am so proud of him for getting this done. He is a real man : )

  17. hi my wife wants me to get one but I am worried what it will do to my sex life , has any one felt a change for better or worse? lol

  18. Had the no scalpal Friday at noon. Doc said sex fine after 24 hours……… With protection of course. Best part was the needleless sringe. That is right, air pressure baby. Just felt like a finger tapping on the the sack. Took about 12 per side instead of 2 needle sticks per side, but still WAY better than needle. Felt a little tender after, but overnight felt fine. Doc did suggest before having intercourse that I take a test…… An oral exam of sorts. I think I will be fine with that. 😉

  19. Had my done on December 30th, “HAPPY NEW YEAR” , left ball zero pain , right side sore & small lump till 5th day post op, 7th day zero pain in both, feel great, horny as hell, but will wait the suggested two weeks as the doctor told me, don’t want to risk any complications, I’ll make up all my humpin after two weeks go by.

  20. Oh I ice packed for three days to help recovery, jock strap , no heavy lifting, mo sex , no masterbation, small lump gone & soreness gone , horniness not gone, horniness very strong , STRONGER after vasectomy , it’s taking all I have in me to hold back for two weeks. “HORNY”

  21. Had mine done last monday, (go in for check up tom) Worse part was them finding the damn vas to clip…NEVER IN MY LIFE HAD I WANTED THE SHOOT IN THE BALLAS IN MY LIFE!!!!! ohhh the pain on each side..5 min never lasted so long…

    Been fine, ice and loratabs were my friends the 1st 3 days… then began to have a low dull pain in the balls, hurt a bit to touch, tried a tighter underwear, no good, iced it this morning again, and much better. Thinking the gravity was causing issues

    Got the check up in the morn, some work to do while out, and then home for some (picture George Lopez whistle here)

  22. I had the conventional vasectomy, followed the Dr orders by staying off feet for the most of two days.

    It’s been 6 days and the only time I feel discomfort is if I get up or sit down too quickly.

  23. I had my vasectomy 2 years ago. Best thing ever. Never felt hornier in my entire life. I think it is because the little swimmers get trapped in the balls and they fill up quicker sending messages to the brain.
    SO everyone out there hesitating…don’t! It gets you hornier than ever.
    The only sideeffect I noticed is that the seemen is a little less stickier (which is good) and the amount is slightly lower than before. But who cares!!!
    Pain went away about a month after the op. Never sensed anything after that.

    Keith.

  24. The no scalpel vasectomy. How long before it is completely healed leaving no scar behind and how long is it before the scar is not noticeable unless you were specifically looking for it?

  25. Its been 6 days now, already masturbated once on day 4 though gently, planning to hit the bed today, will go gently and see how things work out……………… I am cming my wifey

  26. I had sex the very next night. I had to be careful but it was great. It seemed to last longer and my wife told me I was bigger too.

  27. Had a vasectomy Friday, just got done masturbating (Tuesday). it felt real good, man.

  28. Had Vasectomy Tuesday afternoon. I was more nervous about being knocked out… Until I was rolled into the operating room and saw what appeared to be a variety of mid evil medical tools! I wish I hadn’t seen them.:( Full anesthesia and I came out quickly and comfortably. Couldn’t bring myself to look until later that night. Between pain meds and Tylenol things seemed fine until real discomfort started on Wednesday. No bleeding or oozing, just bruising, broken Blood cells, and tenderness. (if I could do one thing over, I’d have used real ice cubes in bags for the bruising. That would have worked better than frozen peas and gel bags!)……..Cut to Friday. I’m single but was really horny and was still sore and swollen but…. I gently whacked off. Felt good but ball sack felt tight afterwards. I was worried about the ‘No sex for 7 days rule’ because I thought I might screw up something in my newly tied testies. Glad that’s not the case. Can’t wait to fully recover!

  29. Had no scalpal procedure a week ago (Friday). Ice packs and tylenol were all I needed but an infection puffed up left nut by Tuesday and a trip back to the doctor. Said an infection is common and that antibiotics would clear it up. Said sex would be fine but #1 the left ball still hurts and #2 I don’t think my wife wants the guilt of making it worse if something were to happen. Having been married 30 years, a month between sex is like a week anyway…I’ll wait for the right time and spank the monkey once I’m feeling up to it…soon for sure.

  30. man my balls have been getting worse. my wife has been teasing me with her body. I am just dying for sex but they say wait 1 week. I feel like a teenager with blue balls. i need to do something.

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